Putting Shaming to Shame

It’s risky for women to get frisky. Whether or not she does, critical condiments (and condoms) will be peppered in. Slut is such a spice frequently tossed, but it’s not settling well with many stomachs.

“Slut is the absolute worst insult you can call a girl or a woman.” according to Leora Tanebaum, author of “I Am Not a Slut: Slut-Shaming in the Age of the Internet.”

With hookup culture at its hype across United States college campuses, slut shaming has become a regular byproduct. Hookup culture is defined as a culture that “ accepts and encourages casual sexual encounters, including one-night stands and other related activity, and focuses on physical pleasure without necessarily including emotional bonding or long-term commitments,” according to the Urban Dictionary Online.

In contrast to hookup culture, however, slut shaming is not an entirely a new concept, with origins dating even further back than Nathaniel Hawthorne’s 1850 novel, “The Scarlet Letter.” To “slut shame” is to “degrade or mock a (typically) heterosexual woman because she enjoys sexual activity, frequently participates in sexual activity, or is rumored to be sexually promiscuous,” according to Tanebaum.

Yes, even if the woman hasn’t actually participated in sexual activity, simple perception is sufficient for her to be rendered “whorish.” Calling someone a slut, too, “causes the offender to draw further negative conclusions about her character,” adds Tanebaum.

In a survey of Wake Forest University students, the majority agreed that regardless of fact or fiction, simply hearing that others had gotten a taste of a fellow female student could spoil her reputation. Seventy-five percent had even gone so far as to say that if they heard someone was a slut, they would automatically consider her to “have no morals,” be a “terrible person,” or “a cheat.” However, there was much variation with regards to what would render her as slutty.

Such discrepancies ranged from what the individual wore to the number of sexual partners. The number of perceived sexual partners especially contributed to the level of sluttiness, with 89 percent of students considering 10 or more to be the magic number in contrast to a very mere 2 percent considering three or fewer.

Still, one factor was unanimous: the individual is female, and even the most minute of behaviors, like the amount of makeup she wore, could contribute to her perceived promiscuity.

One student, who shall remain anonymous, defined a slut as: “someone who searches for gratification and worthiness in the form of affection from others, especially sexual partners.”

Another anonymous student said that a slut is “a girl who casually gives up her body for some form of sexual intercourse and does so with many different partners.”

While many other respondents agreed with the above definitions, others denied the term and instead claimed that, “Nobody has the right to call anyone a slut for a decision that they make.” Slut shaming, however, still prevails. And despite the casual nature of hookup culture, the consequences of slut shaming are anything but.

A Recipe for Disaster

Though the perceived loose lips of a “slut” are deemed shameful, it is really the loose lips of the offender that cause real damage. “She’s ruined for life,” says Tanebaum.

It is, indeed, difficult to forget the publicized suicides of adolescents Phoebe Prince and Hope Witsell, all due to being labeled as slutty. Though suicide is a rarer consequence, issues such as having a lesser likelihood of being hired for a job due to perception as slutty are quite common. Publicity, too, does not yield many benefits.

A paramount example comes from the Monica Lewinsky-Bill Clinton scandal of 1998, which spread from an internal to an international affair. “Overnight,” said Lewinsky, “I went from being a completely private figure to a completely humiliated one worldwide. I was seen by many but actually known by few.”

Lewinsky was crudely rendered “a little tart” in a 1998 publication of the Wall Street Journal. It was as though she was a dessert on display in a glass case, subject to any and all criticisms of passers-by.

Clinton, on the other hand, was “glorified for being a womanizer,” says Tanebaum, “which is also the case among heterosexual males who are perceived to participate in similar activity.”

Interestingly enough, in the Wake Forest student survey, 92 percent perceived Lewinsky to be among the sluttiest of celebrities, along with Miley Cyrus, Kim Kardashian, and Taylor Swift. On the other hand, when presented with some spicy male celebrities, such as Hugh Grant, Channing Tatum, or Cristiano Ronaldo, and asked to explain their reasoning for whether or not they branded them as slutty, 82 percent did not perceive them in a negative light. Instead, they pardoned any charmer-like behaviors, going so far as to say, “[Grant] isn’t slutty, he’s super hot.”

These responses show the immense power that being associated with whore-like behavior has on a female individual. Slut shaming forms a brick barrier of negative preconceived notions around whom it victimizes, blocking others from seeing any value in the individual, to a point of further isolation.

In fact, a study at Cornell University revealed that college-aged women are far less likely to form friendships with women they consider promiscuous because they view them as threats. This, in turn, may cause women to lash out against other women in an attempt to rise above the competition.

Furthermore, with regards to mental health, slut shaming replaces empathy and compassion with shame and humiliation, according to Lewinsky in her March 2015 TED talk entitled, “The Price of Shame.” “Public humiliation, whether on the news or within a college campus, is a commodity in an industry of shame,” added Lewinsky.

Humiliation, according to a 2014 meta-analysis psychology study, is also an even stronger emotion than happiness or anger. It can thus leave deeper wounds in those who undergo victimization than perhaps what the offenders can perceive.

“Those wounds are further deepened by the Internet,” said Lewinsky. “With just one click, we become more numb to the human lives behind the humiliation.”

Writer Danica Johnson agrees. “As a culture,” she wrote in an article for Everyday Feminism magazine, “we are quick to use the words that paint female sexuality as disgraceful, regardless of excessive or relatively no participation within it.”

This negative, socially constructed notion of female sexuality could even be considered oppressive in that it traps women in what feminist theorist Marilyn Frye describes as a “double bind” of oppression.

Frye says that in the United States, particularly younger, heterosexual women, “are in a bind in which neither sexual activity nor sexual inactivity is all right. If she is heterosexually active, [she] is open to criticism for being unprincipled or a whore…if she refrains, she is labeled as ‘frigid,’ a ‘man-hater,’ or a ‘bitch.’”

Tanebaum adds that, essentially, if one is a heterosexual female, she is “damned if [she] does and damned if [she] doesn’t [participate in sexual activity], regardless of the choice to participate.” This reveals a further layer in that there is potential for a woman to be rendered a slut even in cases of rape. The questions of choice and consent disappear from the equation, which can, in turn, provoke even more traumatizing consequences.

We’ve All Got a Shame Allergy, But We’ve Got the Cure

Regardless of whether consent is a part of the recipe, Lewinsky believes that the culture of slut shaming must be put to an end.

Although it is a very intricate problem, it can be changed through compassion and empathy. “Though I [actively chose] to make the mistakes I did at 22,” said Lewinsky, “I would not have been able to recover from the harsh criticisms had it not been for the empathy and compassion with which close family and friends surrounded me.”

She adds that, “It is easy to forget that a woman is dimensional, and has both agency and a soul, and, thus, it is easy to shame her for it. But, to quote Brené Brown [a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work], ‘shame cannot survive empathy.’’”

In empathizing with or showing compassion for an individual as opposed to criticizing them or writing them off as valueless, the industry of public humiliation can finally be shut down. “We talk a lot about freedom of expression,” says Lewinsky, “but we need to talk about our responsibility to freedom of expression.”

What Lewinsky means is that the choice on whether to shame another or to use constructive words lies within everyone. She also encourages starting a conversation and taking action.

In addition to Lewinsky’s TED talk, active efforts have been made to end the regime of slut shaming. On March 22, 2015, Melissa Harris-Perry discussed such efforts, including detailing how people are fighting against slut shaming on her weekly MSNBC talk show.

Harris-Perry first referenced popular ABC sitcom ” Scandal,” and a recent episode in which two characters subtly sent a message to audiences advocating for victims. The message was that even if slut shaming occurs, nobody should ever feel ashamed for “owning [their] bodies and using them in as many ways and as many times as they want, and having great sex along the way.”

E! News Correspondent and guest speaker on Harris-Perry’s show Alicia Quarles spoke to non-victims, telling them to push back against Internet backlash. “Let’s use our words to build rather than to harm,” she says.

Amer Ahmed, another guest and the Intercultural Center Director of Swathmore College, agreed: “Men need to take more responsibility,” he says, adding, “I think we need to have a conversation about the implications of our actions and how they affect women. We have to get honest with each other and address those issues.”

Harris-Perry concluded that to successfully push back against slut shaming, society’s current notions of sexuality and the tie with the double standard it carries must be severed. It will involve conversations among the sexes that evoke self-awareness about what it means to be either a male or a female in society with or without participation in sexual activities.

Through collaboration, empathy, and compassion for others, the tools are at the ready to build a more inclusive environment for all individuals and finally toss slut shaming down the drain.

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The ONLY Time You’ll Ever Hear a Tennessee Fan Say, “Roll Damn Tide”

Scribbles on a blank white page. Splattered canvases of pastel soy milk vomit. Getting a piece of artwork into a contemporary museum seems so easy, a Kindergartener could do it, right?

While the times have changed, as have the styles and forms of art expression, so have the mediums through which such artists express themselves. The other day, my sartorialist friend sent me an interesting BuzzFeed link about one such case.

The link lead me to an O’Keefe-esque photography exposé of beautiful abstract waves streaked with shades of plums, violets, and magentas. The medium du jour? Menstrual blood. While societal instinct would have it to be immediately taken aback with a gag gesture, the real question is what exactly are we gagging about?

For years, the topics of “female issues” such as menstruation have either been considered taboo or patriarchal tools of purity control. (Cough cough, in Romeo & Juliet’s days, the monthly gift was a celebration– people would literally parade blood splotched bedsheets around town…but to celebrate the fact that the girl was still pure. I rest my case).

With regards to our contemporary and oh, so “progressive” times, girls are still humiliated to talk about their periods. I, for one, remember in high school that my friends and I would make a drug deal esque ordeal to pass around spare tampons. Furthermore, some women are even afraid of saying the word, “VAGINA.”

Vagina. (Not Voldemort.) Let it sit with you for a hot second, and I swear I’ll get back to the topic of how this relates to art. Okay.

Vagina is like the gnarly monster under your bed–the elephant in the room. Art is a form of expression, whether that expression is love, passion, struggle, hatred, psychedelic influence, what have you. It is a movement that promotes change. Artists are the soldiers and paintbrushes are their bayonets.

By using such a medium, artists like Jen Lewis, at least how my dear friend and I interpreted it, aim to promote a change on how we view women and their bodily functions. By making something beautiful out of something considered dirty and gross, this art has the ability to start a conversation through an unconventional means.

This expression is not just limited to art! Social media was abuzz with Anglomania with regards to Ms. Kiran Gandhi-– the badass who ran the 2015 London Marathon while letting her Crimson Tide flow freely.

Gandhi’s aim? To shed the light on another issue related to the menstruation topic: the access (or lack, thereof) of many women across the world to feminine products. Gandhi also aimed to encourage women to not feel embarrassed by their periods.

26.2 miles later, she says, “I ran to say [the pain and oppression that come with menstruation] do exist, and we overcome it every day.”

As a fellow marathon runner, I can honestly say that I’ve run every long distance race while receiving my monthly gift, including my very first marathon. While I did not choose to follow suit, Kiran’s message speaks loud and clear, and that is that women should also never feel incapable because they have their period; that much can be accomplished, and that, no, you are not a disgusting human being.

These blatant testimonials to vaginal function liberation may help getting people on board, because, let’s face it, hearing things on television or by word of mouth can feel like sitting through a two-hour-long chemistry lecture. People have short attention spans and are visual beings. Seeing such forms of expression through art or athletics may just be the tool we need to move forward with how we treat other women.

Sound crazy? Brilliance…um…flows from it.

#2/21: 9 V. Important Questions for The Bachelorette

From no rose ceremonies to Irish exits, bromances to sex scandals, and Broadway music to Broadway-scale drama, this season of The Bachelorette has by far been one of the most disastrous seasons yet!

But let’s face it: even though we’ve enjoyed every wineglass-flinging, hair-pulling minute of it, there are still some v. important questions we all have:

#1 For starters, what in the world was ABC thinking in having the guys choose between two bachelorettes?!

This show is already nuts: you sign on to have 25 hot eligible bachelors, all the while being custom-outfitted in designer ball gowns, having a personal hair and makeup staff, sipping on free booze, and trotting the globe. And maybe, just maybe, you find “true love.” But of course, let’s throw in a plot twist and have two beautiful women stand while the guys step out of their limo and play a wife-her-up edition of “Hot or Not.” I digress. While I’m sure gallivanting through the Cliffs of Moher and going through a whisky tasting or two is a surefire track to “love,” Britt, honey, you still lucked out. This season is SNAFU.

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#2 IF Britt were to have been the Bachelorette of choice, would she have ended up with Brady?

While Britt dodged many a crazy bullet (cough cough, Ian) the question still stands: If Britt had been the Bachelorette, would she have still ended up with Brady? (You know, the Nashville crooner who dipped to find Britt when the guys chose Kaitlyn?) Britt was definitely the more level-headed of the two, but given the nutty nature of this show, who knows if this season would have been even crazier. We saw all the guys that had joined the club for Kaitlyn, so would there have been even more ridiculous drama? Or is that just #childsplay for dear Britt?

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#3 Speaking of children, did Shawn go through puberty?

Don’t let his 6-pack and deep voice fool you—this Ryan Gosling look-alike cries more than you did when you first watched The Notebook. It’s great that he’s open about his emotions, but seriously, dude: Do you know what you signed up for? Sure, we get it. It absolutely SUCKS to see someone you’re “falling in love with” to be macking on other guys and have insufficient quality time with her, but part of signing up to be a part of the madness that is The Bachelorette is knowing that you’re signing up for a few months of “adult” debauchery. This includes the fact that you and 24 other guys are fighting over your “Allie.“ Hang in there, Shawn. Hopefully you can keep your s*** together when you find out about Kaitlyn and Nick’s evening rendezvous. But, hey, if The Bachelorette doesn’t work out you can always be the new subject for “Hey Girl” memes.

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#4 Speaking of Kaitlyn, can everyone PLEASE calm the eff down about her?

Even though it’s by no means logical to apply real world norms to The Bachelorette (What? You don’t casually dine in historic castles for your dates?) people really need to give Kaitlyn a break. Think about it this way: Your 30-year-old pal Jane starts dating a guy she really likes and after a few dates, they end up getting intimate. You wouldn’t flip your lid over that, right?

#5 Did Ian maybe have a point?

Even though it was 100% NOT okay to insult Kaitlyn like that—namely, saying he was hoping to meet the girl who had gotten her heart broken by Chris Soules instead of the girl who wanted to get her “field plowed” by Chris Soules—Mr. Princeton graduate was, in fact, onto something. They may have taught psychic abilities up there, but perhaps not social cues.

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#6 Now that JJ’s been given the boot, will he reunite with Clint?

Again, screw Ian. He was such a pompous a**hole whose ego may be bigger than Kanye’s. If he gets the Bachelor, I’ll definitely be done. (Maybe…because we all know that would make for hella drama). But most importantly, let us not forget the bromance between Clint and JJ. I don’t know about you but I have a feeling that a Brokebachelor Mountain episode between Clint and JJ may be something for ABC to consider.

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#7 What was with all of those insensitive dates?

Sumo wrestling? Mariachi bands? Faking a death? Okay, the latter I kind of get, given it wasn’t entirely cultural appropriation. However, it was NOT such a smart move in letting poor, beautiful Ben Z. (whom we all know has that heartbreaking story of his mother’s passing) have to come up with an obituary about Kaitlyn. Nothing was more painful than watching the other guys use that opportunity to take a dig at Nick for showing up fashionably late followed by Ben Z. privately giving Kaitlyn a heartfelt spiel, saying he had had to do the same for his mother. Ai, yai, yai, yai, indeed.

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#8 Where can we get one of those magical hole-y sweaters?

You gotta hand it to the girl on her style choices, though.

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And finally, on a more serious note,

#9 Is there going to be a revamp to the Bachelorette/Bachelor franchise?

With SCOTUS’s new passing of the legalization of same-sex marriage, are they going to start including members of the LGBTQ community in the upcoming seasons?

[This article was originally published on The Odyssey Online, by yours truly, Ashley Hamati]

#1/21: Le Musique

Summer wouldn’t be the same without a killer music mix to match. Caveat: No guarantees that this can take the edge off the summer heat quite like an icy G&T.

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Bringing Yoga To School: Winston-Salem yoga instructor Crista Baker is changing lives, one asana at a time

Yoga can happen anywhere, even in a lunchroom. The quiet hum of the cafeteria in the Forsyth County Special Children’s School is broken by the mystical, serene voice of Crista Baker, a yoga instructor in the Winston-Salem community. She turns to a group of four middle-aged women resting on yoga mats and says, “Take a moment to give yourself gratitude.”

Self-gratitude is exactly what Baker hopes to instill in these particular women, as with any of her yoga students. “We all have busy schedules, and we often neglect our own needs. It’s important to take time for yourself,” she says.

Two long tables form an L shape, enclosing the small square space among which the women lie. Schoolteachers, they are clad in jeans and work attire: their faces worn by years of strain from teaching rambunctious youngsters with special needs. Yet, in the midst of yellow painted brick walls spotted with drawings featuring Crayola squiggles and stick figures, there is an undeniable aura of calm that surrounds the room.

Baker herself radiates a peaceful feeling with her pleasant, balanced demeanor. Her dark, curly hair curves along her face in a similar fashion to her lips, which are constantly pulled apart in a welcoming smile.

“I find that yoga brings me happiness, comfort, and balance in addition to the physical benefits,” she says. These feelings were what inspired Baker to further her own practice by becoming an instructor. “I wanted to share how I felt with others and help them find balance in their own lives.”

Baker trained at Ananda Ashram in Upstate New York, a far trip from her native South Carolina. “I chose it because they taught Ashtanga style as well as Sanskrit, mantras, and meditation,” she says. At Ananda Ashram, Baker “really got to live in this yogic culture I had known so little about.” It furthered her desire to share the benefits of yoga practice with others.

She teaches at various yoga hot spots throughout the Winston-Salem area. “I teach a Hatha style class twice a week at Paz Studios downtown, and I have taught at The Breathing Room,” Baker explains.

Wake Forest University juniors Elisabeth Young** and Lauren Schwartz** are loyal aficionadas of her Friday Hatha-style class at Paz. “I feel so rejuvenated after every practice. It’s such a detox after a hectic week of pre-med college classes,” says Young.

Schwartz agrees. “Crista really has a way of connecting with each of her students on an individual level, whether there are ten people or one person in a given class,” she says.

Yoga is Crista’s passion, but it ran even deeper beyond the dim lights and heated walls of a studio. She was determined to find another way to give back to her community. “I wanted to give back and extend my experience to everyone!” she exclaims.

Baker realized it wasn’t realistic to try to enlighten everyone, one downward-facing dog at a time, so she pointed her new focus to teaching people she felt would truly benefit from the practice: teachers. This, in turn, fired her incentive to pioneer Bringing Yoga to School, a project that “allows teachers to enjoy all the benefits of a yoga class in the comfort of their own school.”

Bringing Yoga to School’s roots originated at the Special Children’s School. “I [chose to teach at the Special Children’s School] because its teachers give so much to the community. I wanted to show appreciation for what they do, and say, ‘Hey, you know what? You’re doing an awesome thing and you deserve to do something awesome for yourself, too.’”

She comes to teach these women for thirty minutes every Wednesday morning, at only a dollar per class. “There are very few things you can get for a buck, let alone something that you can use every day and retain in the long run,” she says. Jokingly, she adds, “Even the Dollar Store charges taxes! I don’t.”

In her classes, she incorporates the meditative practices and mantras she was taught at Ananda Ashram. This explains the waves of calm and lightness that Baker radiates. Laughing, she says, “It’s a great stress relief!”

Her mother, Carol Baker, is a teacher at the Special Children’s School. She attests to the stress relief benefits she’s received from her daughter’s morning yoga classes. “As a mother and as a kindergarten teacher, I rarely take time for myself. It’s all about the kids, and they are pretty high-energy,” she says. “With the yoga, I zone everything out, and I leave feeling calm and collected the rest of the day by doing this one little thing for myself. It’s a nice feeling.”

It’s also a feeling Crista intends to be attainable on any given day, and sustainable over time. She says that by incorporating mental practices—called pranayama in Sanskrit—in times of stress, it calms the body down. Smiling, she remembers one of her students.

“She was super self-conscious at first, but a month later, we had gone from worrying about little things like what to wear to class to finding more ways to incorporate pranayama in times of stress.”

The learning aspect is extremely important to Baker. She is, after all, a teacher, too. Baker says, “It brings me so much joy to know that I’ve helped others strike a chord with balance, retain what they’ve learned, and continue to learn with a curious appetite.”

Crista adds that yoga is also exciting, and that each practice is different because the body is constantly changing. “Yoga always brings the body a new challenge regardless of your experience level,” she says. “It’s something anyone can do. Everyone can benefit from the practice.”

Edie McBurney, one of Baker’s loyal students and a speech pathologist at the Special Children’s School, says that this is one of her first exercise programs. “I had never done yoga prior hand, but I’ve loved the stretches for my back because I spend a lot of time sitting in little desks with small children,” she says. With Crista’s guidance, McBurney has since incorporated those stretches and more to loosen her muscles throughout the day.

The yoga has also instilled in Baker’s students an air of self-confidence. Of her daughter, Mrs. Baker says that although Crista will modify the practice based on how everyone feels on a given day, she will also take things for a challenging turn. “She motivates you to challenge yourself. She’ll physically move me into some positions, and that makes me go, ‘Oh! I did it! I can do this!’ when I had never thought I could before,” she says.

Her teaching has benefited her students so much that she has inspired them to take it into their classrooms. “It’s given me a new way to teach my kindergarteners their right from their left,” says Mrs. Baker. “They don’t even realize that they’re learning it, but by learning it in a fun way through yoga, it carries over.” She adds that it has also given the children similar gains in self-confidence to those that she has received herself.

Crista hopes that her initiative to bring yoga to schools will carry over to other schools in the Forsyth County area, including at high school and college levels.

“So far, it’s just at the Special Children’s School, but I am confident that it will spread elsewhere. There needs to be faculty and staff on board and a need for it, which, let’s face it, we all could use stress relief,” she says with a chuckle. “I just want to be able to give other teachers the same benefits I’ve seen within both myself and my current students.”

Whether in a school or a studio, Baker thinks anyone can attain mindfulness, so long as they set aside some time for themselves. She firmly believes that taking that time allows one to better interact with others. She calls this the “Oxygen Mask Theory”: putting on your own oxygen mask on an airplane before helping those around you.

After thirty minutes of flowing through a series of mentally and physically strengthening poses, the stress of the four teachers has evaporated. Now, a glow of mindfulness surrounds them. Crista breathes with an air of genuine satisfaction, “The light, peace, and joy in me honors the light, peace, and joy in each of you. Namaste.”

** = Name has been changed for privacy

21 Stages of Running Your First Marathon, as told by The Devil Wears Prada

THE DAY BEFORE


1. Walking into the pre-race expo and seeing all the glorious running goodies.

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Here I am. I am ready to conquer the racks on racks of Nike shorts and Gu packs. OH! And the beer tent. I will definitely be making a stop there. 

2. When your friends question why you are voluntarily running 26.2 miles.

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An excuse to eat grotesque amounts of pasta only to burn it all off the next day? Come on! What could be better?

3. Leaving the expo with a few (completely necessary) purchases.

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Oh, yes, I absolutely needed that.

RACE DAY


4. Before leaving at the crack of dawn to get to the start line.

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Good vibes needed right about… for the next few hours or so.

5. Even though you arrive on time, when you find yourself waiting in line for the port-a-John 10 minutes prior to Start.

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Should not have drank that coffee.

6. Finally, when the gun’s about to go off.

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Praying my way. Dear mom, I hope you know I love you a lot…

7. When there’s that one guy who thinks it’s a good idea to sprint the first 5k.

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Godspeed to you, sir.

8. When you find your groove but then are disrupted by some jerk honking at and cat-calling you.

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I’m already going to be under immense bodily discomfort for the next few hours– I do not need catcalls right now.

9. Figuring out how to space out when to eat a gummy or energy packet.

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Usually a good route to go is every 5-6 miles, FYI.

10. Finding ways to pep talk yourself and reassert your confidence.

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Note to self: I will not be passed by this grandma in the running skirt. Big time props to you, G, but I refuse.

11. Finally making it to the first half and realizing it was only Round 1.

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Aaaand…I’ve gotta do this again.

12. How you start to feel about your choice to race when The Wall hits you at mile 18.

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26.2 miles?! What the hell was I thinking?!

13. When your legs are starting to feel a little like concrete.

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Ain’t nobody got time for incompetence right now, legs. Work, dammit!

14. How your last pack of gummies taste by mile 20.

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Where’s the next water station again?

15. When you realize you really gotta go but still have 10k left.

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That sign that said “1 in 88 will get the Runs…are you next?” is now coming back to haunt me.

AFTER THE FINISH


16. Crossing the finish line and realizing how hungry you are.

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I just ran and all I want is food. Decadent, beautiful food.

17. When your support squad wants to take photos of you in your post-race glory.

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Dat squirrel tail doe.

18. When the exhaustion and soreness hit you like a wave.

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Would love to chat but…26.2 miles. Me. Tired.

19. Not to mention, the chafing. 

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No matter where it is, it sucks for everyone.

20. When all you want is to be able to walk normally.

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Because Murphy’s Law will come to play and you will, of course, have to walk the most distance and climb the most stairs the day you are the sorest.

21. How you feel when you’re finally rested and refueled.

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Can’t wait to do another!